Navigating Contentious Divorce Proceedings

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In New York, harassment involves intentional acts to annoy or threaten. Your actions seem focused on clarifying payment schedules, not harassment. Document communications and consult your attorney, especially with ongoing legal proceedings. Judges are not specifically trained to recognize gaslighting but evaluate evidence and credibility. Present clear evidence of manipulative behavior during your trial.

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I sent my estranged husband a text message on */* asking when I could expect to receive the temporary spousal support payment. He said he had u til the 10th and I said no it was due on */*. He told me I was wrong and to check the order again. Instead of engaging with him, I did not respond. This morning at *:30am I sent him a text asking him to please let me know when I can expect to receive payment. By *:* I hadn’t heard from him so I sent another text saying since I haven’t heard back from you, yet I am following up. Please let me know when I can expect payment. At *:15pm he sent me the below which is consistent with his over * decades of gaslighting, verbal abuse and more:
It sounds like a stressful situation. Here are some general suggestions:
- Double-check the divorce order for the payment due date.
- Document all communications for your records.
- Consider discussing the situation with your attorney, especially since your trial is approaching.
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Payment has been sent via zelle. I know when payments are due. Please stop harassing me for payment, unless it is late.
It sounds like a challenging situation, especially with a contentious divorce. It's important to keep all communications well-documented and consult your attorney if payments are not being made as per the court order. Would you like to connect with a local attorney for more specific legal guidance?
Is what I did harassment under nYS law
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In New York, harassment typically involves intentional acts to annoy, alarm, or threaten someone. Based on your description, your actions seem focused on clarifying a payment schedule, not intended to harass. However, documenting communications and consulting with your attorney would be advisable, especially considering ongoing legal proceedings.
My husband has abused the legal system against me filing countless false accusation in petitions and affidavits and for restraining orders issued based on lies and then accused me of harassment and the police officer was a friend of his and I was arrested for violating the restraining order for harassing my son — which I did but do. The public defender told me I couldn’t make a statement because someone in her office could represent my husband. So she said she could only tell the judge I didn’t know what harassment was and the judge didn’t believe it and because of the restraining order he issued me a 6 month stay away from my children and home. Finally I got an ACOD since the case was being overseen by the judge that my husband sits on the town board for. If we went to trial it would have just been of my husbands cohorts.
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It sounds like you are facing a complex and potentially high-value legal situation. Would you like to be connected to local lawyers who can better assist you with your case?
No I just retained an attorney. The domestic violence center refused to help me because they helped my husband file a restraining order against me. My husband has continued to gaslight me and tell false accusations and use my children as weapons against me. 8 months ago He caused me to lose my high paying job of 23 years, he got the judge to suspend the temporary spousal support immediately upon application without the judge requiring and supporting evidence and without any input from me.He was enraged when he found out he was going to have to pay child support. He was convinced if we split custody */* then he wouldn’t have to pay child support despite him making (at the time) 5times my high paying salary. We have settled custody and in * weeks is our trial. He took More than $*,* in distributions from his business over the years that he never told me about along with countless other deceitful and malicious things…not disclosing assets, traded in marital vehicle during divorce,
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It seems like you've been through a lot, and it's good to hear that you have an attorney to assist you. Given the complexity and intensity of your situation, it's crucial to work closely with your legal counsel, especially with your upcoming trial.
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Are judges trained to recognize gaslighting behavior?
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Judges are generally not specifically trained to recognize gaslighting behavior. However, they are trained to evaluate evidence, assess credibility, and make fair decisions based on the facts presented. It's crucial to present clear, documented evidence of any manipulative behavior during your trial.
I have more evidence then, I have time to document what he did.
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It sounds like you're dealing with a highly complex and serious legal issue. Would you like to be connected to local lawyers who can better assist you with your case?