Unmarried Mothers Interstate Relocation

Summary

The user, an unmarried mother, wants to move her children from Ohio to Colorado against the fathers wishes. She alleges emotional abuse by the father and has plans for the childrens care and education in Colorado. She has some evidence of the abuse and is considering getting a restraining order. She is also seeking legal representation in family law.

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Unmarried, * children wanting to move back to my home state
What state are you currently residing in and what state are you planning to move to?
Ohio and want to move to Colorado. I have * other children there
Do you have a custody agreement in place for your children in Ohio?
No
What is the age of your children in Ohio?
* and *
Are the fathers of your children in Ohio involved in their lives?
Yes
Do the fathers of your children in Ohio agree with your decision to move to Colorado?
We live together
Have you discussed your plans to move with the fathers of your children?
Yes he wants to fight for custody if i leave
What is the father's reason for wanting to fight for custody?
Does not want me to have them
What is the reason he doesn't want you to have the children?
Because im breaking up with him and i think he just wants to use the kids to get me to stay
What is your plan for the children's custody and visitation if you move to Colorado?
I have them during the school year, he can have them for the summer and any breaks during the school year and can visit anytime he wants to
What is the father's opinion on your proposed custody and visitation plan?
No exceptable
What are the reasons he finds your proposed custody and visitation plan unacceptable?
Im not sure. I think he just wants to be in control
What is the father's relationship with the children like?
He is a good parent sometimes, sometimes he is selfish
What specific actions or behaviors make you say that he is a good parent sometimes and selfish at other times?
When they were younger, i worked nights and he wouldnt change their diapers, also would constantly leave them with my older children so he can sleep on mutiple occations. He is a good parent only being able to provide financially
What is your plan for providing financially for your children if you move to Colorado?
I have a relative i can stay with until i get a place of my own. I also have a job lined up there. I am the only one who has ever taken the kids to the doctors and to and from school
What is the nature of the job you have lined up in Colorado?
Grocery store
What is your plan for childcare while you're working at the grocery store in Colorado?
Daycare for my 4yr old and my 5yr old is in kindergarden
What are the arrangements for the daycare and kindergarten in terms of location and timings?
Also my relatives children go to the same school i would be enrolling my 5yr old in, who is willing to help
That's great to hear. Do you have any concerns about the legal process of moving your children to another state?
Most of my family live in Colorado and are very suppostive
What are your concerns about the legal process of moving your children to another state?
Since we are not married and have no court order, what are my rights and his rights
What is the father's legal paternity status? In general, if paternity has been established, both parents have equal rights and responsibilities towards the child.
He is on the birth certificates
What is your plan if the father decides to take legal action against your decision to move?
Im not sure. I do have proof through my older children on his abuse. He also physiologically and verbally abuses me
Do you have any documentation or reports of this abuse, such as police reports or medical records?
No
Do you have any witnesses or any other form of evidence to support your claims of abuse?
My older children, my sister who lived with us when we lived in colorado. We moved to Ohio a year ago
Have you considered seeking a legal advice or representation to help you navigate this situation?
So it would be their word against gis
What type of abuse are you referring to? It's important to know as different types of abuse can have different legal implications.
Emotional and child abuse
Have you reported this abuse to any authorities or sought any professional help?
No to scared
I understand your fear. It's important to report abuse for your safety and your children's. Would you like information on how to report abuse in Ohio?
Sure but i dont have proof other then my word
What type of proof do you think you need to report the abuse? In general, your testimony can be considered evidence. It's important to report any form of abuse to the authorities.
Im not sure
What type of abuse are you alleging? Emotional, physical, or both?
Emotional
What specific instances of emotional abuse can you provide? This can be helpful in building your case.
Threats agaist me, verbal abuse, trama bonding, gaslighting, blaming
Have you documented these instances of emotional abuse, such as through text messages, emails, or voice recordings?
Yes
What steps have you taken to protect yourself and your children from this emotional abuse?
I save all my messages from him and have also sent them to my relative
That's a good step. Have you considered getting a restraining order against him for your safety and the safety of your children?
They are to stay in their room or we spend the night at a friends house
Are you considering filing for a restraining order against him for your safety and the safety of your children?
I would like to but not sure how to go about it
Have you contacted any local domestic violence organizations or hotlines for guidance on obtaining a restraining order? They can provide valuable resources and support.
No
What is your plan if the father decides to take legal action against your decision to move?
I dont know. Wouldnt it be up to the judge?
Yes, ultimately, the judge will make the final decision. However, it's important to have legal representation to present your case effectively. Would you like information on finding a lawyer in Ohio?
Yes
What type of lawyer are you looking for? Family law, child custody, or domestic violence?
Family law
What is your financial situation? Are you able to afford a lawyer or would you need assistance in finding a pro bono lawyer?