Custody Change For Minor

Summary

In California, minors can request a change in custody if a parent is unfit. Courts consider the childs best interest, including health, safety, and emotional well-being. Your grandmother can petition for guardianship, and your preference is considered. Evidence of neglect, misuse of funds, or emotional abuse can support your case. Always consult a legal professional for personalized advice.

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I have a question about custody i was hoping you can answer
Sure, I'd be happy to help with your custody question. Could you please provide more details about your situation? Also, could you let me know which jurisdiction you're in, as custody laws can vary by location.
I am in merced california
****, in California, child custody decisions are based on what's in the best interest of the child. Factors considered include:
- Child's health, safety, and welfare
- Parent's ability to care for the child
- Child's ties to school, home, and community
Can you provide more details about your situation?
So I'm currently * my mother passed away when i was * my dad has full custody of me i want to live with my grandma she said she'll help me so i can live with her i have some proof of my dad being an unfit parent
In California, you could potentially request a change in custody if it's in your best interest. Here are your options:
- Your grandma can petition for guardianship
- At *, you have a right to express your preference in court
- If your dad is unfit, Child Protective Services might intervene.
Consult a lawyer for personal advice.
Can my grandma get custody of me because my dad doesn't take me to the doctors or dentist i haven't been to either in years my grandma had to make an appointment for me because i told her i haven't been to the doctors in years
In California, your grandmother can file for guardianship. Courts consider factors like your health and safety, and your preference. If your father's neglect is affecting your health, it could be seen as unfit parenting. Consult a lawyer for personalized advice.
My dad also takes money out of my bank account for personal use in the past he used some of it to buy his motorcycle i got that money from my mom and from social security
In California, it is illegal for parents to misuse a child's property. Your grandmother can:
- File a report with the police about the misuse of funds.
- Seek legal guardianship, which would give her control over your finances.
Always consult with a legal professional for specific advice.
My dad has also said a lot of stuff in the past that has hurt my feelings and he still does sometimes
Emotional abuse can also be a factor in custody cases. Do you have any proof of this, like text messages or emails? It's crucial to share these with your lawyer for a comprehensive evaluation of your situation.
Yes i have some text of him threatening to hit me
I'm sorry to hear that. In California, threatening behavior can be considered child abuse. Have you reported this to Child Protective Services or the police? It's important to keep any evidence you have. Always consult with a professional for personalized advice.
No i don't want to because I'm scared to lose my family we are waiting until after june 15th because that's my birthday party
I understand your fears. In California, you can report abuse anonymously. This step could help protect you and your family. It's important to speak with a trusted adult or legal professional about this.
Oh ok
I understand your concerns. It's important to prioritize your safety and well-being. Remember, you can report abuse anonymously in California. Speak to a trusted adult, like your grandmother, or consult a legal professional.
I also wanted to ask if they served him papers and he doesn't go to court what will happen
In California:
- If he's served and doesn't appear in court, the court may proceed without him.
- He might lose his chance to present his case or object to the orders.
- The court could decide the case based on the evidence and testimonies it has.
- Always consult with a legal professional for personalized advice.
Would it be legal for me to stay with my grandma while we set this up because i don't want him getting mad at me
In California, as a minor, you can stay with another adult if your legal guardian allows it. If your father doesn't permit this, your grandma can request temporary guardianship while custody is determined. Always consult a lawyer for specific advice.
Would the court take it into consideration if i am scared of my dad yelling at me or hitting me?
Yes, in California, the court considers the child's safety and emotional health. Fear of physical or emotional harm from a parent is critical. Any proof, like text messages, can support your claim. Always consult with a legal professional for personalized advice.
Shoud i send the court the text messages of my dad threatening to hit me?
Yes, in California, such evidence can support your claim. Here's what you can do:
- Keep all threatening texts as they can be used as evidence.
- Share these messages with your lawyer or the court.
- Always consult with a professional for personalized advice.
Should i also show them my bank account balance to prove he has used my money
Yes, showing your bank statements could provide evidence of misuse of funds. Here's what you could do:
- Maintain records of all bank transactions.
- Share these with your lawyer or the court.
- Always consult a legal professional for personalized advice.
Would it be legal for me to record my dad having road rage? He usually yells and give people the middle finger when he gets upset
Yes, in California, it's generally legal to record public behaviors, including road rage. Here's what you need to know:
- Consent is not required to record in public spaces.
- Always ensure your safety first.
- Consult with a lawyer for specific advice.
We also currently live with my dads parents and my aunt will the court try and make me stay with them my dad said i go to my aunt if he passes away but they have also hurt my feelings and my dad's mom said she'll slap me because i yelled at her when i was sick
In California, the court considers the child's best interests. Here's what you should know:
- If they're unfit or abusive, courts may not grant custody to them.
- Your preference matters.
- Evidence of abuse or threats can support your case.
- Consult a lawyer for personalized advice.
What will the court think about my dad hitting me? I don't have any pictures but i think i should tell them anyways
Yes, it's important to tell the court about any physical abuse, even if you don't have pictures. In California, child abuse is taken very seriously. Any evidence, like text messages or testimonials, could support your case. Always consult a legal professional for personalized advice.
So what are the chances of me living with my grandma if my dad is unfit?
In California, if your dad is proven unfit and your grandma is willing and able to provide for your needs, the court can consider her for custody. Factors include:
- Your preference.
- Your health, safety, and welfare.
- Grandma's ability to care for you.
Consult a lawyer for specific advice.
I would prefer to live with my grandma
In California, your preference is considered in custody decisions. If your grandmother is willing and able, and your father is unfit, she might get custody. Consult a lawyer to guide you through the process.
I'm scared of the people i live with yelling at me if they find out and my grandma cant get custody
I understand your fear, but remember, California law prioritizes your safety and well-being. If you're in immediate danger, call *. Otherwise, consider discussing this with a trusted adult or a legal professional. You can also contact Child Protective Services for help. Always prioritize your safety.
What will happen if my dad puts me down during court he would probably raise his voice or put me down
In California, courtrooms have strict rules about behavior. If your dad behaves disrespectfully, it could negatively impact his case. It's important to have a support person like a lawyer or advocate with you. Always consult a legal professional for personalized advice.
Should i get my medical records to show the court my dad hasn't taken me to the doctors or dentist in years?
Yes, in California, medical records can be used as evidence of neglect. You could:
- Request your records from your healthcare provider.
- Share these with your lawyer or the court.
- Always consult with a legal professional for personalized advice.
My grandma has heard about my dad yelling at me she was there for some of it can she go up and talk?
Yes, in California, your grandmother can testify in court. She could:
- Share her firsthand observations.
- Provide support for your claims.
- Always consult with a legal professional for personalized advice.
I'm scared to talk to my dad about my feelings i have tried to in the past but i feel like he doesn't really listen i am comfortable about talking to my grandma about anything will the court take that into consideration
Yes, the court will consider your comfort level with each caregiver. Emotional well-being is an important factor in custody decisions in California. Sharing your feelings and experiences with the court can help them understand your situation better. Always consult with a legal professional for personalized advice.
What is considered a stable home for a child?
In California, a stable home for a child generally includes:
- Consistent, loving caregiver(s)
- Regular routine
- Safe, clean living conditions
- Access to education, healthcare, and basic needs
- Emotional support and guidance
- Absence of abuse or neglect
Always consult a legal professional for personalized advice.
I live in the middle of the country right now there isn't much to do i can't connect with anyone here because they are much older than me i have no friends her i get really sad should i mention that in court?
Yes, you should share how your current living situation impacts your emotional health and social development. In California, courts consider these factors in custody decisions. Always consult with a legal professional for personalized advice.
How long will a custody case with good proof against a parent last?
In California, custody cases can vary greatly in length. It often depends on the complexity of the case and court availability. On average, they may last from several months to over a year. Always consult a legal professional for personalized advice.
Will the court send me back to stay with my dad during the case even if i have proof he emotionally abuses me and has hit me in the past
In California, the court prioritizes your safety. If you have proof of abuse, they might:
- Grant temporary custody to a safe adult, like your grandma.
- Order supervised visitation with your dad.
Remember, consult with a legal professional for personalized advice.
I also have no privacy here will they take that into consideration?
Yes, your right to privacy is important. In California, courts consider this when determining the child's best interest. If your lack of privacy is impacting your well-being, it could be relevant to your case. Always consult with a legal professional for personalized advice.
Who should i have serve the papers?
In California, anyone over the age of * who is not a party to the case can serve the papers. This could be a friend, relative, or professional process server. Always consult with a legal professional for personalized advice.
In the house i currently live in i have to sleep on a bed that is 12 years old it is very dirty several people have used it for a while and I'm pretty sure the box spring is broken should i mention that?
Yes, you should mention it. Adequate and safe living conditions are factors considered by California courts. This could support your claim about your dad's neglect and poor living conditions. Always consult with a legal professional for personalized advice.
My dad says when he starts getting my social security checks again he'll buy my a new bed or give me his current bed so he can get the new one so his back won't hurt that much is that ok? Or is it wrong?
In California:
- Social security benefits for a child should be used for the child's needs.
- If the funds are being misused or not benefiting you, it could be an issue.
- Sharing this with your lawyer or court could support your case.
Always consult with a legal professional for personalized advice.
When we lived in merced my dad would work * hour night shifts and he would expect my grandma to pick me up from school all the time he would get really upset if she didn't because she was going out of town I talked to her about it and she said she would take me because it would be different if I was living with her my dad would complain about having to pick me up and drop me off from school because he would lose sleep
It sounds like your father's work schedule impacts his ability to provide for your needs. In California, a parent's ability to provide care is considered in custody decisions. Have you discussed this with your grandma or a legal professional?
No not yet
I suggest discussing this with your grandma and a legal professional. In California, your father's inability to meet your needs due to his work schedule can be considered in custody decisions. It's crucial to consult a lawyer for personalized advice.
So because he works a lot and his schedule affects his ability to meet my needs he can keep custody of me?
In California, the court prioritizes the child's best interest. If your dad's work schedule negatively impacts his ability to care for you, it can influence custody decisions. However, many factors are considered. Always consult with a legal professional for personalized advice.
Oh so it can make my grandma win? Sorry i don't really understand
In California, your grandma could potentially gain custody if the court finds that your father's work schedule and behavior significantly hinder his ability to care for you, and if living with your grandma is in your best interest. Always consult a legal professional for personalized advice.
My dad also doesn't really make time for me he mostly sleeps all day is that bad?
In California, a parent's inability to spend quality time with their child can factor into custody decisions. It's important to share this with your lawyer or court as it could support your case. Always consult with a legal professional for personalized advice.