Child Custody Agreement Adjustments

Summary

The user is seeking advice on adjusting a current child custody agreement in Virginia. The current arrangement allows the father visitation hours, but the user and her husband are considering seeking 50/50 custody. They are meeting with the mother to discuss potential changes, and the user is advised to get any changes in writing as they can be enforceable in court. For significant changes like 50/50 custody, a court order may be necessary.

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i am seeking information about a child custody case where there is */* legal custody with a current agreement about visitation hours for dad (my husband)
What state are you currently residing in? This is important as child custody laws can vary from state to state.
virginia
What specific information are you seeking about the child custody case?
I am wondering if it is wise to try to adjust the current agreement outside of court when we are ultimately going to be seeking */* custody in the end
What is the current custody arrangement and why do you want to adjust it outside of court?

In Virginia, courts generally favor agreements made between parents. However, it's important to ensure any changes are in the child's best interest.
the current arrangement is that dad only has visitation every other Friday for * hours every other Saturday and Sunday for * hours and * hours every other Thursday.
What are the reasons you believe the current visitation schedule is not in the best interest of your child?
Dad is a fantastic father. Everything he agreed to when daughter was born was in hopes to reconcile relationship with mom. That is not the case anymore. Because of his generosity we are now paying $* a month to her in child support. She is completely against */* and says she will not agree without a court order
What steps have you taken so far to modify the current custody agreement?
we are meeting with her tomorrow to talk. She is willing to give overnights every other weekend plus the * * hour days as all she will agree to and only if we won’t seek more later. Should we atleast get those changes in writing if we plan to fight for */*
Yes, it's crucial to get any changes in writing. In Virginia, written agreements can be enforceable in court. However, for a significant change like */* custody, a court order may be necessary.