Pregnancy Matters Court Mediation

Summary

The user is pregnant and has a full protective order against her ex-boyfriend due to a domestic violence situation. She wants to disclose her pregnancy to him and seek financial support. In Connecticut, court mediation can be used for such matters, but modifying a protective order requires compelling reasons and court approval. Child support is determined by both parents income, the number of children, and the custody arrangement. The user is a college student and unemployed, while the ex-boyfriend works full time. The user is considering a 50/50 custody arrangement. The court will consider all relevant circumstances, including pregnancy, when deciding on matters related to protective orders, child support, and custody.

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is there court mediation for pregnancy matters?
Yes, court mediation can be used for pregnancy matters, especially in cases involving disputes about parental rights or child support. Can you provide more details about your situation?
i was arrested along with my ex boyfriend for a domestic violence situation however he doesn’t know i’m pregnant. we have a full protective order with no contact allowed
What state are you located in? Different states have different rules regarding protective orders and communication exceptions.
CT
What is the nature of the dispute you wish to mediate?

In Connecticut:
- Full protective orders generally prohibit any contact.
- Violation can lead to criminal charges.
- Mediation may be possible with court approval.
what nature
By "nature", I mean what specific issues or disagreements are you hoping to resolve through mediation?
what?
Are you looking to discuss child custody, child support, or any other specific issue related to your pregnancy with your ex-boyfriend through mediation?
im looking to disclose the information to him that i am pregnant and need financial support from him
What is your ex-boyfriend's current financial situation?

In Connecticut, child support is determined by both parents' income, the number of children, and the custody arrangement.
he works full time
What is his occupation and estimated annual income? This information is crucial in determining child support in Connecticut.
he makes approximately $*,* annually
What is your current financial situation and employment status? In Connecticut, both parents' income is considered when determining child support.
i am not employed as i am in clllebe
In Connecticut, if you're unemployed, the court may consider your potential earning capacity. Are you receiving any financial aid for college?
college
What is your current custody arrangement plan for the child once they are born?
i am receiving financial aid but i have loans
What is the amount of financial aid you are receiving and what is the total amount of your loans?
i am not sure
What is your plan for child custody once the baby is born?
i want */* custody but that has not been determined
What steps have you taken so far to establish this custody arrangement?
what are my options?
To establish a */* custody arrangement, you may need to:

- Consult with a family law attorney
- File a custody petition in court
- Attend mediation if required
- Prepare for a custody evaluation if ordered by the court.
what happens if you file a motion to modify a protective order?
In Connecticut, if you file a motion to modify a protective order:

- The court will review your request.
- A hearing may be scheduled.
- The judge will decide based on the best interest of all parties involved.
what does the motion ask?
A motion to modify a protective order typically asks the court to change the terms of the existing order, such as allowing contact for specific reasons like discussing child support or custody.
will they consider my situation of pregnancy?
Yes, courts generally consider all relevant circumstances, including pregnancy, when deciding on matters related to protective orders, child support, and custody.
what is the likelihood of it being modified?
The likelihood of a protective order being modified depends on the specific circumstances of your case and the judge's discretion. It's important to present compelling reasons for the modification.
how do i present a compelling reason?
To present a compelling reason, you should:

- Clearly state your reasons
- Provide evidence supporting your reasons
- Explain how the modification benefits all parties, especially the child.
what are good reasons and benefits to the party?
Good reasons could include the need for communication about child support or custody. Benefits to the party could be clarity on responsibilities and rights, and ensuring the child's welfare.
what does the paper for modifying ask?
A motion to modify a protective order typically asks for your personal details, the details of the order you wish to modify, the reasons for the modification, and any supporting evidence.
supporting evidence such as?
Supporting evidence could include communication records, financial documents, or any other documents that support your reasons for the modification.
can being a college student hekp?
Being a college student may not directly influence the modification of a protective order. However, it can show your commitment to providing a stable future for the child, which could be considered by the court.
what are compelling reasons?
Compelling reasons are strong, convincing arguments or factors that make a persuasive case for your request. In your case, it could be the need for child support, communication about the child, or ensuring the child's welfare.
what else?
What is your plan for childcare once the baby is born? This could be a compelling reason for modifying the protective order, as it shows the court that you're considering the child's best interests.
child support in what sense?
In terms of financial assistance from the child's father for expenses like food, clothing, medical care, and education. Can you provide more details about your financial needs for the child?
clothing
What specific clothing needs do you anticipate for your child and what is the estimated cost?
$*,*
That's a significant amount. Are you referring to the total cost of clothing over a certain period or for specific items?
Okay
What is the estimated cost of clothing for your child on a monthly basis?
i’m not sure
What is your plan for childcare once the baby is born?
what are reasons i should have for modifying a protective order?
Reasons for modifying a protective order could include:

- Need for communication about child support or custody
- Changes in circumstances, like pregnancy
- Ensuring the child's welfare and best interests.
what are other reasons?
Other reasons could include:
- Change in living situation
- Completion of anger management or other relevant therapy by the restrained party
- Mutual agreement between parties for modification.
other reasons?
Other reasons might include:
- Significant time has passed since the order was issued
- The restrained party has consistently complied with the order's terms
- The restrained party's employment situation requires modification.
other reasons?
Other reasons could include:
- The restrained party has made significant positive changes in their behavior
- The protected party feels safe and wants to lift or modify the order.
other reasons?
Other reasons might include:
- The order was issued based on incorrect or incomplete information
- The protected party has moved out of state
- The restrained party has completed a rehabilitation program.
what are reasons pregnant women want to modify a protective order?
Pregnant women might want to modify a protective order to:

- Communicate about prenatal care and child support.
- Discuss future parenting plans.
- Address changes in living situations due to the pregnancy.