Guardianship And Supported Decision Making

Summary

The user, an 18-year-old with disabilities, is under the guardianship of her aunt. She wants to continue her senior year at Lake Central High School, but her aunt wants her to move to Westville High School. The user is considering going to court to implement supported decision-making, which would allow her to make her own decisions with assistance from trusted individuals. She is also considering involving her stepmother, another aunt, and her grandfather in the process. The user is seeking advice on how to navigate this situation and assert her rights.

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I was wondering if I need to take my aunt to court so i can go to the school i want to go if im *
Are you currently under the guardianship of your aunt?
I am *, but I don't know, I think she might be. I do have disabilities, so i'm not sure
Do you have any documentation that states your aunt is your legal guardian?
yes i do
What type of disabilities do you have? This information can help determine your legal rights and options.
i have pyschiatric disorders, gastrointestional disorders, developmental disabilities
What state are you currently residing in? This will help me provide accurate information about guardianship laws in your location.
Indiana
In Indiana, at *, you're generally considered an adult. However, if you're under guardianship due to disabilities, your guardian may still have some control. Do you want to change schools or guardianship?
I'm not sure.
What is the main reason you want to change schools? This will help me provide you with the most relevant information.
I want to stay in the school of where I'm at, I don't want to change schools, because i am happy where i am, but i havent been making better decisions, so it might be why, but i can talk to her today
What specific decisions are causing concern for your current guardianship? This will help me understand your situation better.
I love my aunt, i love that she is helping me, i know i havent been making right decisions recently, but i am trying to do better. she wants me to move to a school closer to her, so she can manage me
What is the name of the school you currently attend and the one your aunt wants you to move to?
I currently attend Lake Central High School, i'm going to be a senior, and the one my aunt wants me to go to is Westville High School
What is your aunt's main reason for wanting you to change schools?
to manage me and make sure i am making right decisions, etc
What is your aunt's plan to manage you better at Westville High School?
I don't know. I plan to talk to her today and try to convince her not to move me.
What is the nature of the guardianship agreement you have with your aunt? This can help determine the extent of her legal rights over your decisions.
She has been my legal gaurdian since i was 4 years old.
What are the terms of the guardianship agreement? Does it specify the extent of control your aunt has over your decisions, especially regarding your education?
I'm not really sure.
Could you possibly obtain a copy of the guardianship agreement? This would help clarify the extent of your aunt's legal rights over your decisions.
I could
That would be helpful. Could you please share the details of the guardianship agreement once you have it? This will help us understand your situation better.
she has full custody over me, but i am *, but maybe she is my gaurdian still because i have disabilities?
What does the guardianship agreement specifically say about decision-making in relation to your education?
that she can make the decision until im *?
What does the guardianship agreement say about decision-making after you turn *, especially considering your disabilities?
it says nothing about that on there
What is the exact wording of the guardianship agreement regarding decision-making? This will help clarify your aunt's legal rights over your decisions.
I still didnt find it
What exactly are you trying to find, ****? I'm here to help you with your legal concerns.
Hi, I finally found a picture of the agreement, the gaurdianship ended when i turned *
That's a good start, ****. Can you tell me which state this guardianship agreement was made in?
Indiana
What is the current issue you're facing regarding the guardianship agreement?
Is that I turned *, but i want to be able to make my own decisions about where i go to school and stuff
What specific decisions are you having trouble making due to the guardianship agreement?
instead of having a guardianship agreement, i want to do supported decision making
What is your understanding of supported decision making and why do you prefer it over guardianship?

In Indiana, supported decision making allows adults to make their own decisions with assistance from trusted individuals.
because i am *, and i am adult, but i dont want what she wants for me
What specific decisions are you having trouble making due to your aunt's influence?
going to school where i want to go
What school do you want to attend and what is your aunt's objection to it?
Lake Central High School for senior year
What is the reason your aunt is objecting to you attending Lake Central High School?
she wants to manage me
What specific actions has your aunt taken to prevent you from attending Lake Central High School?
nothing yet i dont think
What steps have you taken so far to assert your decision to attend Lake Central High School?
im going to tell her today i dont want to go to the school she is suggesting
What is the school your aunt is suggesting and why do you not want to go there?
Westville High School, because i want to live with my step mom
What is the reason your step mom can't be your legal guardian?
because i am *?
What is your step mom's opinion on this matter?
she is angry at my aunt (legal guardian)
What is the reason your step mom is angry at your aunt?
because my aunt never told her this decision
What decision did your aunt make without informing your stepmom?
changing me into schools
What is the reason your aunt wants you to change schools?
to manage what i do
What is the reason your aunt wants to manage your decisions?
because i was making not so good decisions
What were the "not so good decisions" you were making that led your aunt to want to manage your decisions?
i think because i was going online and tryign to find a sperm donor, etc
What is your purpose for seeking a sperm donor at this stage of your life?
i want to be a mom
Why do you believe becoming a mother at this stage in your life is the right decision for you?
im not saying to right now.
What are your plans for the future, especially regarding your education and potential parenthood?
i want to finish school at lake central for senior year then go to college
What college are you planning to attend and what course are you interested in?
Ball state university
What course are you planning to study at Ball State University?
special education for people with disabilities
What are your plans for managing your studies and potential parenthood at the same time?
having a job in place
What kind of job are you planning to have while managing your studies and potential parenthood?
somewhere close to college
What type of job are you considering that would be close to your college?
possibly a high paying job, like a daycare maybe
What qualifications or experience do you have that would make you a good fit for a job in a daycare?
i work with some kids who have disabilities
That's great, ****. Do you have any legal concerns or questions related to your work with kids who have disabilities?
no i dont
What are your plans if your aunt continues to object to your decision to attend Lake Central High School?
thats why i am kinda asking you
What specific legal advice are you seeking in relation to your aunt's objections to your school choice?
should i go to the court for it?
What is the specific action you want the court to take regarding your situation?
supported decision making?
What specific decisions do you want to make under supported decision making that you're currently unable to make due to your aunt's guardianship?
i dont know
What are the main areas of your life where you feel you need more control or independence?
good question
What are the main decisions you want to make independently that you feel your aunt's guardianship is preventing you from making?
school, etc i think
What is your aunt's reason for not supporting your decision to attend Lake Central High School?
because she wants me to go to westville high school
What is the main reason you prefer Lake Central High School over Westville High School?
my friends, my teachers, etc
What is the main reason your aunt prefers Westville High School over Lake Central High School for you?
its smaller and i would not be bully, etc
What steps have you taken to address the bullying issue at Lake Central High School?
is to not worry about it
How has the bullying at Lake Central High School affected your academic performance and overall well-being?
maybe a little bit
What steps have you taken or plan to take to address the bullying issue at Lake Central High School?
talk to the counselors
What specific actions are you hoping the counselors at Lake Central High School will take to address the bullying issue?
to have a safe place for me to go when i feel overwhelmed
What steps has the school taken so far to ensure a safe environment for you?
go to a different classroom to calm down
What is your opinion on the school's current solution for when you feel overwhelmed?
i think its nice
What are your expectations from the court regarding the supported decision making?
im hoping it would make both of us feel better
What specific decisions do you hope to make through supported decision making that would make both you and your aunt feel better?
school, etc
What is your aunt's perspective on supported decision making?
i dont know if she'd like it, but i want it
What are the reasons you believe supported decision making would be a better option for you than your aunt's guardianship?
because she can support me, but i get the final say of the decision
What is your aunt's perspective on you having the final say in decisions under supported decision making?
i dont think shed like it
What steps have you taken towards implementing supported decision making in Indiana?
i want to call them as soon as i can
Who are you planning to call for implementing supported decision making?
state office? government? i need to find it
Which state office or government department are you trying to contact?
i dont know, someone who would be able to help me with it
What is your current living situation? Are you living with your aunt or your stepmom?
i am living with my stepmom
How does your stepmom feel about your decision to pursue supported decision making?
she supports anything i decide
What is your stepmom's opinion on your decision to attend Lake Central High School?
she wants that for me
What is your stepmom's opinion on your aunt's decision to change your school?
she is upset about it and doesnt want to fight her on it
What is the reason your stepmom doesn't want to fight your aunt on the school decision?
because she is already making drama about it
What kind of drama is your aunt creating about this situation?
my aunt didnt tell my stepmom that she was planning this until i told her
What was your aunt's reason for not informing your stepmom about the school change plan?
i have no clue
What steps have you taken to communicate your wishes to your aunt?
i was going to do that today
What is the specific message you plan to communicate to your aunt today?
i wrote it down
What exactly did you write down to communicate to your aunt?
ill copy and paste it here
What is the content of the message you plan to communicate to your aunt?
Jen, I love you. I always have. I always will. To say I feel angry is an understatement, I feel furious. I know you are trying to do what you think is best for me, and I know you mean good intentions, but you don’t really know what’s best for me, Kim doesn’t know what is best for me, and I don’t know what’s best for me. But I know someone who knows me the best then you or Kim or anyone for that matter, and that person is God. Even though he is not in person all the time, God watches me everywhere I go. God is my rock and my redeemer. I do want to tell you how I feel that you are potentially putting me in a school that I don’t think is best for me. *. By putting me in that school, you are taking Kim away from me, I use Kim to make decisions and help me with my impulses. Instead of focusing on what I have done, we should focus on what I can do to be preventative of doing things that are wrong. *. You are taking away all of my other family too, who would be very upset with you for taking me away from them, because they love me too much and I love them with all my heart. *. You're taking away my support animal, my service dog, my love, sure yeah there is an animal place near your house, but nothing compares to my one and only dog who’s been there, when I was feeling down. *. Do you not love me enough to stay where I am? Why can’t you see that I am perfectly happy there? You’re taking away the place where I can feel like I can be myself, be silly, funny, etc. *. What do you mean you can’ manage me when I’m in CP? Why do you need to control me? What’s the ultimate goal of it? because if I need to be managed, what’s the problem? Here are a few things we came up with.. Is it because you feel like I am going to keep gowing through the windows? Because Kim said she will put more measures into place where I can’t go through it. Do you want video cameras everywhere in the house so you could log in and see what I’m doing */*? Because we have video cameras already, we just need to install them. Do you think I’ll try to keep getting into medicine? We would make a google doc of what time I took medicine, what medicine I took, how many milligrams, who prescribed it, etc. These are all great things we would be willing to do to be able to let me stay at my home, my school, etc. I know being on my phone at night was one of the problems too, and we came up with a solution. We would set up my phone in the view of the video cameras, so you could see every little movement I made. I hope you would give us an opportunity to do this before giving it away. I do know I can do better, in class I’ve been learning about having empathy for others, I hope you could take this moment to have some empathy for me too. I would never ever try to do anything to try to hurt you, but I just wanted you to know how your impacting me and others by doing this. I know this is all part of my actions, and because I have disabilities, and I am trying to do better. If you do really love God, and if you love me too, and you value who I am, you would know I can do better and do this. I love you.
What is your aunt's response to your message?
i didnt tell her yet
i plan to though
What is your plan if your aunt doesn't agree with your decision after you tell her?
i would go to court?
What specific outcome are you hoping to achieve by going to court?
that i dont have to do what she is saying
What is your aunt's legal status in relation to you now that you're *?
she is not my gaurdian, it happened on my birthday, shes not my gaurdian
What is your aunt's current role in your life if she's no longer your legal guardian?
my aunt
im nervous, because i love her, and dont want to hurt her either
What is the main reason you're nervous about confronting your aunt with your decision?
i think she would be mad
What is your plan if your aunt gets mad after you confront her with your decision?
i need help with that
what should i do
Have you considered seeking mediation services to facilitate a conversation between you, your aunt, and your stepmom? This could help address your concerns in a neutral environment.
thats a good idea
What is your plan for seeking mediation services?

In Indiana, you can contact the Indiana Association for Mediation Services. They can help facilitate a conversation between you and your aunt.
it might work, but i dont know
What are your main concerns about using mediation services?
because school at lake central is starting soon
What steps have you taken to enroll in Lake Central High School for the upcoming school year?
im already enrolled
What is your aunt's reaction to your enrollment at Lake Central High School?
i dont know
should i take her to court?
What specific outcome are you hoping to achieve by taking her to court?
supported decision makijg
What specific decisions do you want to make under supported decision making that you're currently unable to make due to your aunt's influence?
im not sure
What is your understanding of the process and benefits of supported decision making in Indiana?
do i have to go through court for it ?
What is your understanding of the process of supported decision making in Indiana?

In Indiana, Supported Decision Making (SDM) is a recognized alternative to guardianship. It allows adults to make their own decisions with assistance from trusted individuals. It doesn't necessarily require court involvement.
i dont know the process
What specific decisions do you want to make under supported decision making?
any?
i would say school, medical, etc
What steps have you taken to implement supported decision making in your life?
none yet
What is your plan to implement supported decision making in your life?
by calling someone and start the process
Who are you planning to call to start the process of supported decision making?
not sure yet
Who are the trusted individuals you would like to involve in your Supported Decision Making process?
my stepmother, my other aunt (connie), my grandpa possibly
What is the role of your other aunt (Connie) and your grandpa in your life?
connie is my aunt, and my grandpa is my grandpa, because he is the best at supporting me
What is the specific support your grandpa provides that makes you consider him for your Supported Decision Making process?
he gives great advice for me
What kind of advice does your grandpa usually provide? Is it related to your current situation?
he provides advice for anything
What is your grandpa's opinion on your decision to implement supported decision making and attend Lake Central High School?
i dont know
What is your plan to discuss your decision to implement supported decision making and attend Lake Central High School with your grandpa?
when i can
What is preventing you from discussing your decision with your grandpa right now?
im at work