Character Reference Request Guide

Summary

When requesting a character reference for a civil matter, especially from someone you havent spoken to in years, its important to be respectful and concise. Clearly explain the purpose of the request, the importance of their perspective, and provide a deadline for their response. In this case, the request is for a statement describing the individuals character, particularly around their ex and child, to be used in a civil case. The request should be sent well in advance of the court date to allow the recipient ample time to respond.

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Please develop a persuading request to my long friends father, Tony Julian, who was a magistrate here in Randolph County , NC, for a statement describing my character and the type of life I currently live. We haven't spoken in years and this request isn't for a criminal case. It s a civil issue involving the type of man I am around my ex and my child. I plead for you to take even a couple mins of your well deserved retired lifestyle to explain the man on which I pride to be, and the man (and boy) you remember . Your statement would carry a lot of weight. Thank you for your time and consideration. My court date is April 3rd so please respond by then April * if you are willing to offer insight. With much respect, **** ****.
Dear Mr. Julian,
I hope this message finds you well and enjoying your well-deserved retirement. My name is **** ****, and I am writing to you with a heartfelt request. As someone who has known me since my youth and has witnessed my growth into adulthood, your insight and perspective hold great value to me.
I am currently involved in a civil matter concerning my character and the type of person I am, especially around my ex and our child. Your statement describing the man I have become, and the boy you remember, would carry significant weight in this case.
I understand how precious your time is, but I kindly plead for just a few minutes to share your thoughts. My court date is April 3rd, so if you are willing, please respond by April 2nd.
Thank you for your time and consideration.
With much respect,
**** ****