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Divorce Court Communication Concerns
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In a high-conflict divorce, its crucial to receive direct communication from the court rather than through indirect channels like a soon-to-be ex-spouse or their associates. If you havent received direct information about required paperwork or court dates, its reasonable to request a continuance. Clearly explain to the judge your concerns about the indirect communication, especially if it involves discrepancies like incorrect court times. Emphasize the need for direct court communication to ensure you can properly submit necessary documentation. Consider consulting a family law attorney for personalized guidance.Full Conversation
but I was not informed of this by the court system nor was I told directly what paperwork needed to be turned in and my soon to be ex, has drafted the paperwork and is demanding that I sign it and threatening me if I don’t but I don’t trust any of this and I don’t understand why I wasn’t informed or contact her directly and I want to ask for a continuance today when I go to court because I don’t trust the source and I don’t think that that is a legitimate way to inform me am I wrong and what should I say to the Judge
Hey! It's really important to stay calm when speaking to the judge. Here's what you can say:
- Explain that you have not received the necessary paperwork directly from the court.
- Mention that the information came through your soon-to-be ex's father’s secretary.
- Express your concerns about the legitimacy and ask for a continuance to ensure proper documentation.
Do you need help drafting a statement or any specific points to highlight?
- Explain that you have not received the necessary paperwork directly from the court.
- Mention that the information came through your soon-to-be ex's father’s secretary.
- Express your concerns about the legitimacy and ask for a continuance to ensure proper documentation.
Do you need help drafting a statement or any specific points to highlight?
I need you to tell me exactly what to say
Alright, here's a script you can use in court:
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"Your Honor, I respectfully request a continuance for today's hearing. I have not received the necessary paperwork directly from the court. Instead, the information was conveyed to me through my soon-to-be ex's father’s secretary. This has raised concerns about the legitimacy and completeness of the documentation. I believe it is essential to ensure that all proper procedures are followed and that I am fully informed by the court directly. Therefore, I request additional time to review and confirm all necessary documents."
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Stay calm and speak clearly. You got this!
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"Your Honor, I respectfully request a continuance for today's hearing. I have not received the necessary paperwork directly from the court. Instead, the information was conveyed to me through my soon-to-be ex's father’s secretary. This has raised concerns about the legitimacy and completeness of the documentation. I believe it is essential to ensure that all proper procedures are followed and that I am fully informed by the court directly. Therefore, I request additional time to review and confirm all necessary documents."
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Stay calm and speak clearly. You got this!
No, the court is asking for more paperwork from us supposedly but I wasn’t directly informed by the court am I wrong do you think that this was a strange or on conventional, or inappropriate way to expect me to get information
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It does seem unusual and inappropriate for you to receive critical information through indirect channels, especially in a legal matter. You should definitely express your concerns to the judge.
Would you like help finding specific documents or understanding the next steps you need to take?
It does seem unusual and inappropriate for you to receive critical information through indirect channels, especially in a legal matter. You should definitely express your concerns to the judge.
Would you like help finding specific documents or understanding the next steps you need to take?
It’s been a high conflict divorce. I’ve had a protective order against my soon to be ex so not only do I have trust issues but I can’t imagine why it would be conveyed to a secretary of his dad’s to him and then to me like why would the court expect that to be appropriate and valid?
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It is indeed unusual for you to receive critical court information through such indirect channels, especially in a high-conflict divorce.
- Clearly mention to the judge your concerns about not receiving direct communication from the court.
- Emphasize the protective order and your trust issues.
- Request clear and direct communication moving forward.
Would you like help finding specific documents or understanding the next steps you need to take?
It is indeed unusual for you to receive critical court information through such indirect channels, especially in a high-conflict divorce.
- Clearly mention to the judge your concerns about not receiving direct communication from the court.
- Emphasize the protective order and your trust issues.
- Request clear and direct communication moving forward.
Would you like help finding specific documents or understanding the next steps you need to take?
I’d like you to give me a script of exactly what to say to the judge when asking for a continuance
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Here's a script you can use in court:
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"Your Honor, I respectfully request a continuance for today's hearing. I have not received the necessary paperwork directly from the court. Instead, the information was conveyed to me through my soon-to-be ex's father’s secretary. Given the high-conflict nature of our divorce and my existing protective order, I have serious concerns about the legitimacy and completeness of the documentation received through such indirect channels. Therefore, I request additional time to ensure that all proper procedures are followed and that I receive all necessary information directly from the court."
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Stay calm and speak clearly. You got this!
Here's a script you can use in court:
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"Your Honor, I respectfully request a continuance for today's hearing. I have not received the necessary paperwork directly from the court. Instead, the information was conveyed to me through my soon-to-be ex's father’s secretary. Given the high-conflict nature of our divorce and my existing protective order, I have serious concerns about the legitimacy and completeness of the documentation received through such indirect channels. Therefore, I request additional time to ensure that all proper procedures are followed and that I receive all necessary information directly from the court."
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Stay calm and speak clearly. You got this!
No, I’m not supposed to receive paperwork. I’m supposed to turn it in supposedly.
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It seems like you’re in a complex situation. Here’s an updated script you can use:
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"Your Honor, I respectfully request a continuance for today's hearing. I have been informed that additional paperwork is required from me, but I have not received any direct communication from the court regarding this matter. The information was conveyed through my soon-to-be ex's father’s secretary, which raises concerns about the legitimacy and completeness of the information. Given the high-conflict nature of our divorce and my existing protective order, I believe it is essential to ensure that I follow proper procedures and receive all necessary information directly from the court. Therefore, I request additional time to clarify what is required and ensure that I submit all necessary documentation."
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Stay calm and speak clearly. You got this!
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It seems like you’re in a complex situation. Here’s an updated script you can use:
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"Your Honor, I respectfully request a continuance for today's hearing. I have been informed that additional paperwork is required from me, but I have not received any direct communication from the court regarding this matter. The information was conveyed through my soon-to-be ex's father’s secretary, which raises concerns about the legitimacy and completeness of the information. Given the high-conflict nature of our divorce and my existing protective order, I believe it is essential to ensure that I follow proper procedures and receive all necessary information directly from the court. Therefore, I request additional time to clarify what is required and ensure that I submit all necessary documentation."
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Stay calm and speak clearly. You got this!
Would you like to connect with local lawyers who can better assist you with your case? By submitting this request, I authorize you to forward my information to multiple potential lawyers, and I agree to your Terms of Use and Privacy Policy, including the Consent to Receive Automated Phone Calls, Emails, and Texts. Information you provide is not privileged or confidential.
I don’t have an existing protective order anymore. I had a prior one, and it was conveyed supposedly through my soon to be ex‘s father secretary to my soon to be ex who is supposed to tell me who drafted the paperwork and I don’t feel comfortable signing or doing anything with us because I haven’t been informed directly and I don’t feel like I should without having direct information
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It’s completely understandable to be cautious in your situation. Here’s a revised script for you:
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"Your Honor, I respectfully request a continuance for today's hearing. I have been informed that additional paperwork is required from me, but I have not received any direct communication from the court. The information was conveyed through my soon-to-be ex’s father’s secretary, which raises concerns about the legitimacy and completeness of the information. Therefore, I request additional time to clarify what is required and ensure that I submit all necessary documentation."
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Would you like any further assistance regarding this matter?
It’s completely understandable to be cautious in your situation. Here’s a revised script for you:
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"Your Honor, I respectfully request a continuance for today's hearing. I have been informed that additional paperwork is required from me, but I have not received any direct communication from the court. The information was conveyed through my soon-to-be ex’s father’s secretary, which raises concerns about the legitimacy and completeness of the information. Therefore, I request additional time to clarify what is required and ensure that I submit all necessary documentation."
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Would you like any further assistance regarding this matter?
OK no you’re missing the details. It was a high conflict divorce. I had a protective order at one point expecting me to trust information coming from my soon to be ex and the paperwork he drafts is not something I can do.
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It sounds like you are in a complex and stressful situation. Here's a more tailored script considering your high-conflict divorce:
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"Your Honor, I respectfully request a continuance for today's hearing. I have been informed through indirect channels that additional paperwork is required from me. Given the high-conflict nature of our divorce and my prior protective order, I have serious concerns about relying on information that has not been communicated to me directly by the court. I request additional time to ensure that I receive all necessary information directly and can submit the required documentation properly."
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Is there anything else you need help with?
It sounds like you are in a complex and stressful situation. Here's a more tailored script considering your high-conflict divorce:
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"Your Honor, I respectfully request a continuance for today's hearing. I have been informed through indirect channels that additional paperwork is required from me. Given the high-conflict nature of our divorce and my prior protective order, I have serious concerns about relying on information that has not been communicated to me directly by the court. I request additional time to ensure that I receive all necessary information directly and can submit the required documentation properly."
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Is there anything else you need help with?
Should I specify what the indirect channels are especially the fact that I’m supposed to be getting this information from my ex, which seems very inappropriate for one party in a divorce to convey the information to another party and divorce?
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It does seem inappropriate for one party to convey critical legal information to the other in a high-conflict divorce. Here’s a more detailed script you can use:
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"Your Honor, I respectfully request a continuance for today's hearing. I have been informed through my soon-to-be ex’s father’s secretary that additional paperwork is required from me. Given the high-conflict nature of our divorce and my prior protective order, I have serious concerns about relying on information not communicated directly by the court. I request additional time to ensure I receive all necessary information directly and can submit the required documentation properly."
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Would you like any further assistance regarding this matter?
It does seem inappropriate for one party to convey critical legal information to the other in a high-conflict divorce. Here’s a more detailed script you can use:
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"Your Honor, I respectfully request a continuance for today's hearing. I have been informed through my soon-to-be ex’s father’s secretary that additional paperwork is required from me. Given the high-conflict nature of our divorce and my prior protective order, I have serious concerns about relying on information not communicated directly by the court. I request additional time to ensure I receive all necessary information directly and can submit the required documentation properly."
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Would you like any further assistance regarding this matter?
The soon to be ex’s father secretary, told the ask to tell me supposedly
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It sounds like you have a complex situation with significant concerns about how information is being conveyed. Here’s a refined script for your use in court:
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"Your Honor, I respectfully request a continuance for today's hearing. I have been informed through my soon-to-be ex’s father’s secretary that additional paperwork is required from me. Given the high-conflict nature of our divorce and my prior protective order, I have serious concerns about relying on information not communicated directly by the court. I request additional time to ensure I receive all necessary information directly and can submit the required documentation properly."
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Stay calm and speak clearly. Is there anything else you need help with?
It sounds like you have a complex situation with significant concerns about how information is being conveyed. Here’s a refined script for your use in court:
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"Your Honor, I respectfully request a continuance for today's hearing. I have been informed through my soon-to-be ex’s father’s secretary that additional paperwork is required from me. Given the high-conflict nature of our divorce and my prior protective order, I have serious concerns about relying on information not communicated directly by the court. I request additional time to ensure I receive all necessary information directly and can submit the required documentation properly."
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Stay calm and speak clearly. Is there anything else you need help with?
I didn’t get the information from the secretary, my ex supposedly got the information from the secretary and was supposed to convey it to me so I got the information for my ex who I do not trust and who has also drafted the paperwork that I’m expected to sign and I don’t feel comfortable Because I haven’t received direct information and I don’t really know what’s needed and I don’t know the facts of the matter from the court nor did I know that I had court today. I was informed that I had court at * o’clock this morning but I checked the docket and saw that it was at *:* so that alone shows that I cannot count on the information that I am given from my ex to be correct
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It seems like you're dealing with a very complex and stressful situation. Here’s a revised script for you to use in court:
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"Your Honor, I respectfully request a continuance for today's hearing. I have been informed through my soon-to-be ex that additional paperwork is required from me. However, I have not received any direct communication from the court. Given the high-conflict nature of our divorce and my prior protective order, I have serious concerns about relying on information conveyed indirectly. I request additional time to ensure I receive all necessary information directly from the court and can submit the required documentation properly."
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Stay calm and speak clearly. Is there anything else you need help with?
It seems like you're dealing with a very complex and stressful situation. Here’s a revised script for you to use in court:
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"Your Honor, I respectfully request a continuance for today's hearing. I have been informed through my soon-to-be ex that additional paperwork is required from me. However, I have not received any direct communication from the court. Given the high-conflict nature of our divorce and my prior protective order, I have serious concerns about relying on information conveyed indirectly. I request additional time to ensure I receive all necessary information directly from the court and can submit the required documentation properly."
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Stay calm and speak clearly. Is there anything else you need help with?
Don’t add in like I was told the wrong court time. Should I have that end? Do you know to give basis?
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It seems like you have a valid concern regarding the indirect communication and the high-conflict nature of your divorce. Here’s a revised script:
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"Your Honor, I respectfully request a continuance for today's hearing. I have been informed through my soon-to-be ex that additional paperwork is required from me. However, I have not received any direct communication from the court. Given the high-conflict nature of our divorce and my prior protective order, I have serious concerns about relying on information conveyed indirectly. I request additional time to ensure I receive all necessary information directly from the court and can submit the required documentation properly."
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Would you like any further assistance regarding this matter?
It seems like you have a valid concern regarding the indirect communication and the high-conflict nature of your divorce. Here’s a revised script:
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"Your Honor, I respectfully request a continuance for today's hearing. I have been informed through my soon-to-be ex that additional paperwork is required from me. However, I have not received any direct communication from the court. Given the high-conflict nature of our divorce and my prior protective order, I have serious concerns about relying on information conveyed indirectly. I request additional time to ensure I receive all necessary information directly from the court and can submit the required documentation properly."
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Would you like any further assistance regarding this matter?
Should I provide the example of the fact that I was not even informed of court through the court but yet I was told by my ex it was at *:* this morning when it’s actually at *:* this afternoon, which is evidence of it being reasonable for me to question the information conveyed to be accurate
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Here's how you can include the timing issue in your statement for the judge:
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"Your Honor, I respectfully request a continuance for today's hearing. I have been informed through my soon-to-be ex that additional paperwork is required from me. However, I have not received any direct communication from the court. Given the high-conflict nature of our divorce and my prior protective order, I have serious concerns about relying on information conveyed indirectly. For instance, I was initially told the court time was *:* AM when it is actually at *:* PM. This discrepancy further underscores my need for direct communication from the court. I request additional time to ensure I receive all necessary information directly from the court and can submit the required documentation properly."
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Would you like any further assistance regarding this matter?
Here's how you can include the timing issue in your statement for the judge:
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"Your Honor, I respectfully request a continuance for today's hearing. I have been informed through my soon-to-be ex that additional paperwork is required from me. However, I have not received any direct communication from the court. Given the high-conflict nature of our divorce and my prior protective order, I have serious concerns about relying on information conveyed indirectly. For instance, I was initially told the court time was *:* AM when it is actually at *:* PM. This discrepancy further underscores my need for direct communication from the court. I request additional time to ensure I receive all necessary information directly from the court and can submit the required documentation properly."
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